Welcome back. Just to recap, in Part 1 we identified that Negative Emotions are pointers to change (Emotional Signposts).
For example the emotion of Fear = get prepared, cope with or deal with.
6 steps to help you deal with these emotions when they arise -
1 Identify the emotion
2 Appreciate the message (see below, The Action Signals)
3 How can you use it
4 Feel reassured
5 See release as a tool of empowerment
6 Take action to improve the situation
10 basic messages of change (The Action Signals)
1 Uncomfortable – boredom, impatience
2 Fear – worry, apprehension
3 Hurt – loss
4 Anger – irritated, annoyed
5 Frustration – held back
6 Disappointment
7 Guilt – regret
8 Inadequacy – less than perfect
9 Overloaded – hopeless, depressed, more than you can deal with
10 Loneliness
The Mastery Steps
The following steps are designed to help you take control of your emotional situation
1 - Identify the signal then
a) change your state
b) clarify what you want
c)take action in that direction
Change your perception or your procedure.
2 - Appreciate the message
3 - Get Curious – how do you want to feel. What would you need to believe
to feel this way
What would you be willing to do to handle this emotion. What can you learn
from this.
4 - Get Confident – remember when you have felt this before and got over it.
What did you do?
5 - Get Certain – identify 3 or 4 ways of dealing with the emotion
6 - Get Excited – Take MASSIVE Action. - Kill the monster while it is little!!!
And finally ….....
Here are 10 emotions to cultivate seeds of greatness, to make life work.
1 Love and warmth
2 Appreciation and Gratitude
3 Curiosity (wonder)
4 Excitement and Passion
5 Determination
6 Flexibility
7 Confidence
8 Cheerfulness
9 Health
10 Contribution
I hope that in some way these notes on Emotions have helped you to understand that they are your responsibility and belong to no-one else.
Remember – there is not one person alive today who can make you feel anything (despite what you may believe) you are responsible for every feeling you experience.
So now let me wish you a fantastic life from this moment forwards and live passionately in every moment.
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Tuesday, 22 June 2010
Tuesday, 27 October 2009
Positive Re-enforcement
Hi
Over the last couple of weeks I have been thinking and looking at the above topic and have discovered that it is the exact opposite of and yet complements the Combat Change video post exceedingly well.
Because I am soon to record a new video on this topic I have decided that I want this post to support the video. It would be pointless to write the post "on topic" and then replicate the very same material in the video, so because I am flying by wire here I hope that the result is not verbal carnage.
As in the Combat Cravings film, I will explain the technique involved to achieve the state of Positive Re-enforcement and why it is used.
The technique is however, self standing and can therefore be used on its own to give yourself an quick boost of confidence during "low periods" and, it is a valuable tool to add to your "toolkit" to be used as a quick method to change your state.
Changing your state can cause your present situation to take on an entirely different perspective and allow you to tackle the process of change (see earlier post) more effectively.
So now I will move away from the topic of Positive Re-enforcement and concentrate the second half of this post on a small news item.
Under the banner of The Big Blue Sky Company, Tom Armstrong and Dave Baxter are currently researching their first collaborative foray into the litereary world. It is a journey into the realms of personal self discovery and draws heavily on respected global teachings dating back thousands of years.
Although it is very early days I believe that foundations have been laid that challenge the fundamental tenets of current global beliefs and that this book will encourage the reader to do more than just think outside the box, but to become the box for himself or herself.
Tom and Dave are experienced coaches and are both teachers in the fields of entertainment and Personal Development. They have been friends for some 10 or so years and during that time they have worked together on many projects, some of which have been live performances and some have been educational workshops. So to take this collaboration to another level with the work on the new book is an exciting and rewarding project.
So for now I will say just one thing
Have a fantastic day and evening and remember
Don't predict the future - CREATE IT!
DAve
Over the last couple of weeks I have been thinking and looking at the above topic and have discovered that it is the exact opposite of and yet complements the Combat Change video post exceedingly well.
Because I am soon to record a new video on this topic I have decided that I want this post to support the video. It would be pointless to write the post "on topic" and then replicate the very same material in the video, so because I am flying by wire here I hope that the result is not verbal carnage.
As in the Combat Cravings film, I will explain the technique involved to achieve the state of Positive Re-enforcement and why it is used.
The technique is however, self standing and can therefore be used on its own to give yourself an quick boost of confidence during "low periods" and, it is a valuable tool to add to your "toolkit" to be used as a quick method to change your state.
Changing your state can cause your present situation to take on an entirely different perspective and allow you to tackle the process of change (see earlier post) more effectively.
So now I will move away from the topic of Positive Re-enforcement and concentrate the second half of this post on a small news item.
Under the banner of The Big Blue Sky Company, Tom Armstrong and Dave Baxter are currently researching their first collaborative foray into the litereary world. It is a journey into the realms of personal self discovery and draws heavily on respected global teachings dating back thousands of years.
Although it is very early days I believe that foundations have been laid that challenge the fundamental tenets of current global beliefs and that this book will encourage the reader to do more than just think outside the box, but to become the box for himself or herself.
Tom and Dave are experienced coaches and are both teachers in the fields of entertainment and Personal Development. They have been friends for some 10 or so years and during that time they have worked together on many projects, some of which have been live performances and some have been educational workshops. So to take this collaboration to another level with the work on the new book is an exciting and rewarding project.
So for now I will say just one thing
Have a fantastic day and evening and remember
Don't predict the future - CREATE IT!
DAve
Thursday, 24 September 2009
Pathway to Change (part 1) Purpose.
We all know that whenever we set out on journey there has to be a reason to make that journey. Even if it is your intention to travel round in circles and go nowhere in particular then that is what you must set out to do.
But generally speaking it is pointless to just get into you car, get onto your bike or set off walking because doing that will mean never arriving.
Let us say that we intend to go and visit a friend in London on Saturday next now we are getting somewhere.
We now have a reason to make the journey - the journey has a "purpose" and because we have now given ourselves this reason we are well on course to make it happen.
BUT this is not the only example of purpose...........
We may decide that we want to "spend some money" just because we feel like it - what is our "purpose" here?
Well it may be psychological - a lot of us (particularly those who are female) say that going shopping is a therapeutic activity however since this is a major generalisation I would also add that there are other women who say that they do not use the shopping experience as a mood lifter, preferring to only "shop" when in good spirits. I would also like to qualify that the term "shopping" in this context refers to an activity other than grocery shopping or heading out to purchase white goods or similar - but I digress from my discussion.
It is on the basis of this that I offer a conclusion that in certain cases, the purpose for the activity of "shopping" is to provide therapy and to create the "feel good" factors as a way to achieve happiness or escape from drudgery or upset.
Secondly our purpose in "spending money" may be to purchase something that we feel will enhance or improve our life or lifestyle in some way. Therefore the purpose of the activity is to move forward from where we are.
On a totally different, physiological level even those actions that we consider automatic and unthinking, must follow the same rule of purpose -
Consider breathing. The purpose is to intake in air to oxygenate our blood and to exhale carbon dioxide from our bodies.
Consider our heart beating. This is something we never think about, but its purpose is to pump the blood supply round our bodies
So in summary, moving from one place to another, always requires a "purpose" and it is just the same with making changes in our lives
Change = Movement and therefore Change requires PURPOSE
I hope that you have enjoyed this first part of the Pathway to Change programme and that you will keep an eye open for the next part in a couple of weeks.
Until then
Don't predict the future - CREATE IT!
Have fun
DAve
But generally speaking it is pointless to just get into you car, get onto your bike or set off walking because doing that will mean never arriving.
Let us say that we intend to go and visit a friend in London on Saturday next now we are getting somewhere.
We now have a reason to make the journey - the journey has a "purpose" and because we have now given ourselves this reason we are well on course to make it happen.
BUT this is not the only example of purpose...........
We may decide that we want to "spend some money" just because we feel like it - what is our "purpose" here?
Well it may be psychological - a lot of us (particularly those who are female) say that going shopping is a therapeutic activity however since this is a major generalisation I would also add that there are other women who say that they do not use the shopping experience as a mood lifter, preferring to only "shop" when in good spirits. I would also like to qualify that the term "shopping" in this context refers to an activity other than grocery shopping or heading out to purchase white goods or similar - but I digress from my discussion.
It is on the basis of this that I offer a conclusion that in certain cases, the purpose for the activity of "shopping" is to provide therapy and to create the "feel good" factors as a way to achieve happiness or escape from drudgery or upset.
Secondly our purpose in "spending money" may be to purchase something that we feel will enhance or improve our life or lifestyle in some way. Therefore the purpose of the activity is to move forward from where we are.
On a totally different, physiological level even those actions that we consider automatic and unthinking, must follow the same rule of purpose -
Consider breathing. The purpose is to intake in air to oxygenate our blood and to exhale carbon dioxide from our bodies.
Consider our heart beating. This is something we never think about, but its purpose is to pump the blood supply round our bodies
So in summary, moving from one place to another, always requires a "purpose" and it is just the same with making changes in our lives
Change = Movement and therefore Change requires PURPOSE
I hope that you have enjoyed this first part of the Pathway to Change programme and that you will keep an eye open for the next part in a couple of weeks.
Until then
Don't predict the future - CREATE IT!
Have fun
DAve
Saturday, 5 September 2009
Wednesday, 19 August 2009
Taking Massive Action
Hi and welcome to my Altered Image blog for today
I am prompted to write this today because of the inspirational message I selected for my Facebook pages - "You cannot plough a field by turning it over in your mind"
Taken literally a farmer looks at his 5 acre field then closes his eyes and imagines over and over and over again that it is ploughed. After several minutes he opens his eyes again and guess what has happened to the field? NOTHING, ZERO, ZILCH, NADA! It is still the same as it was before he closed his eyes.
The above illustration serves to demonstrate that postive thinking alone is simply not enough to get the job done. If our country gent wants to get his 5 acre field ploughed he must do several things to make it happen -
1. He must decide that he is going to get the field ploughed
2. Next he must commit to getting the field ploughed
3. He must resolve to get the field ploughed
and finally
4. He must take massive action to get it done.
So the decision to get the field ploughed is easy, but before it is going to happen the farmer has to move from simply having an idea or a thought into a state where this idea needs to become a MUST.
Without being a MUST the idea or notion stays in the realms of "should" and will never get done. Taking the step of making the idea a MUSY moves the farmer into a state of commitment.
Now having committed to getting the field ploughed he has to move up another gear, he needs to resolve to get this task done. This move will require an altering of his present state to one of
"come hell or high water that field is going to get ploughed on Monday"
At this time our farmer is now well on the way to getting his field ploughed, he is in a state of "MOMENTUM". However, there is one more thing that must be achieved before he takes his action, he needs to work out his "STRATEGY" - he has to ensure that
a) he has a plough
b) all the blades are attached
c) he has fuel in the tractor to make it run
d) where he is going to start to plough
3) in which direction he is going to plough (because he needs to create a series of straight furrows)
Finally, he needs to take his Massive Action.
In this case taking that action probably means our farmer having an early night, then getting up very early on Monday morning.
Irrespective of what the weather is doing he needs to get out there onto that tractor and plough that field, because that is the only way it will be done.
Now I know that this example may seem over simplistic but the processes are exactly the same no matter what we set out to do, It might be going to the shop for the weekly shop, or we might intend to build a skyscraper or we want to change our lives - to do any of these things and move from one position to another we have to take Massive Action.
So until the next time
Don't predict the future - CREATE IT!
DAve
I am prompted to write this today because of the inspirational message I selected for my Facebook pages - "You cannot plough a field by turning it over in your mind"
Taken literally a farmer looks at his 5 acre field then closes his eyes and imagines over and over and over again that it is ploughed. After several minutes he opens his eyes again and guess what has happened to the field? NOTHING, ZERO, ZILCH, NADA! It is still the same as it was before he closed his eyes.
The above illustration serves to demonstrate that postive thinking alone is simply not enough to get the job done. If our country gent wants to get his 5 acre field ploughed he must do several things to make it happen -
1. He must decide that he is going to get the field ploughed
2. Next he must commit to getting the field ploughed
3. He must resolve to get the field ploughed
and finally
4. He must take massive action to get it done.
So the decision to get the field ploughed is easy, but before it is going to happen the farmer has to move from simply having an idea or a thought into a state where this idea needs to become a MUST.
Without being a MUST the idea or notion stays in the realms of "should" and will never get done. Taking the step of making the idea a MUSY moves the farmer into a state of commitment.
Now having committed to getting the field ploughed he has to move up another gear, he needs to resolve to get this task done. This move will require an altering of his present state to one of
"come hell or high water that field is going to get ploughed on Monday"
At this time our farmer is now well on the way to getting his field ploughed, he is in a state of "MOMENTUM". However, there is one more thing that must be achieved before he takes his action, he needs to work out his "STRATEGY" - he has to ensure that
a) he has a plough
b) all the blades are attached
c) he has fuel in the tractor to make it run
d) where he is going to start to plough
3) in which direction he is going to plough (because he needs to create a series of straight furrows)
Finally, he needs to take his Massive Action.
In this case taking that action probably means our farmer having an early night, then getting up very early on Monday morning.
Irrespective of what the weather is doing he needs to get out there onto that tractor and plough that field, because that is the only way it will be done.
Now I know that this example may seem over simplistic but the processes are exactly the same no matter what we set out to do, It might be going to the shop for the weekly shop, or we might intend to build a skyscraper or we want to change our lives - to do any of these things and move from one position to another we have to take Massive Action.
So until the next time
Don't predict the future - CREATE IT!
DAve
Monday, 10 August 2009
Altered Image
Hi everyone
Thank you for joining me on this page - I will now tell you the reason for the urgency in this post
As the business name indicates, my particular objective for setting up and running Altered Image is to create lasting change be it personal or professional. To this end I carefully selected the website branding to generate a question........... ie alteredimage2 and changingtimes2 - those of you who have already made the connection will have asked the internal question alteredimage2 what? and changingtimes2 what?
Anyway, having had a very successful year working with new clients, writing and publishing the two books, It's My Life and It's My Life 2 combined with my ebook on Risk Assessment I have decided that there are distinct market places in which I want to be working and one of the reasons for this post is to elaborate more on this............
From this point forward I intend to refer to the business simply as Altered Image and I intend to restructure into 4 distinct areas of operation
1 - Personal Change Management, specialising in Confidence Issues, Work Life Balance and Goal Setting
2 - Business Change Management, specialising in Innovation planning, Goal Setting and creating a safety culture within the work place
3 - Artistic Performance Change Management, working with people within the entertainment industry on confidence issues, audition techniques, stage fright management
4 - Bereavement Change Management, helping clients adjust to the changes that naturally occur when a life partner dies, by guiding and assisting through all the legal and personal areas of change.
Whilst many of you reading this will have joined the group on Facebook, others will be following from Twitter but I am prompted to ask all of you the same question -
"Why did you join or why did you follow?" - some of you will have joined because you know me personally and have learned over the years of our friendship / relationship that there is a good chance that I know what I am talking about, and that I work hard to live the lifestyle I am teaching.
However there are those of you whom I do not know personally and it is you that I am about to address - AND I AM TOTALLY SERIOUS ABOUT THIS - I am prepared to "give away" an hour's worth of personal or business consultancy to the first 5 of you who email me and claim it!
There is a condition attached to this "gift" and that condition is this - to qualify and in order to prove that you are genuine, I need you to tell me in the email the 3rd word on the values section of the Charter page on the Altered Image website, OH! and I also need a minimum of two referrals in exchange for this hour of my time.
Once you have qualified I will contact you and arrange the details (business or personal work, date, time etc.) and we will take it from there.
So I am determined to make the changes necessary to ensure that the business continues to grow and look forward to hearing from you in the very near future with those emails.
Create a terrific day for yourself and remember, you are in charge of your own life, nobody else is!
DAve
PS. Qualification for the above offer is only available until 31st August 2009
D.
Thank you for joining me on this page - I will now tell you the reason for the urgency in this post
As the business name indicates, my particular objective for setting up and running Altered Image is to create lasting change be it personal or professional. To this end I carefully selected the website branding to generate a question........... ie alteredimage2 and changingtimes2 - those of you who have already made the connection will have asked the internal question alteredimage2 what? and changingtimes2 what?
Anyway, having had a very successful year working with new clients, writing and publishing the two books, It's My Life and It's My Life 2 combined with my ebook on Risk Assessment I have decided that there are distinct market places in which I want to be working and one of the reasons for this post is to elaborate more on this............
From this point forward I intend to refer to the business simply as Altered Image and I intend to restructure into 4 distinct areas of operation
1 - Personal Change Management, specialising in Confidence Issues, Work Life Balance and Goal Setting
2 - Business Change Management, specialising in Innovation planning, Goal Setting and creating a safety culture within the work place
3 - Artistic Performance Change Management, working with people within the entertainment industry on confidence issues, audition techniques, stage fright management
4 - Bereavement Change Management, helping clients adjust to the changes that naturally occur when a life partner dies, by guiding and assisting through all the legal and personal areas of change.
Whilst many of you reading this will have joined the group on Facebook, others will be following from Twitter but I am prompted to ask all of you the same question -
"Why did you join or why did you follow?" - some of you will have joined because you know me personally and have learned over the years of our friendship / relationship that there is a good chance that I know what I am talking about, and that I work hard to live the lifestyle I am teaching.
However there are those of you whom I do not know personally and it is you that I am about to address - AND I AM TOTALLY SERIOUS ABOUT THIS - I am prepared to "give away" an hour's worth of personal or business consultancy to the first 5 of you who email me and claim it!
There is a condition attached to this "gift" and that condition is this - to qualify and in order to prove that you are genuine, I need you to tell me in the email the 3rd word on the values section of the Charter page on the Altered Image website, OH! and I also need a minimum of two referrals in exchange for this hour of my time.
Once you have qualified I will contact you and arrange the details (business or personal work, date, time etc.) and we will take it from there.
So I am determined to make the changes necessary to ensure that the business continues to grow and look forward to hearing from you in the very near future with those emails.
Create a terrific day for yourself and remember, you are in charge of your own life, nobody else is!
DAve
PS. Qualification for the above offer is only available until 31st August 2009
D.
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